Preface
This book began as a simple list of sample wedding ceremonies written, collected, and/or revised by myself or by couples who, under my advice and guidance, ultimately put together their own ceremony, one that was as personal and as unique as they were.
I continued to search the Internet, books, and other resources for more samples and ideas, in addition to writing passages of my own, all with the idea of adding to the information I could give to those couples who contacted me for my services as an Officiant.
There is a veritable gold mine of information and advice available to couples who are planning their wedding, particularly in reference the process of writing your own vows, but there is relatively little regarding the complete wording of a ceremony. Most Officiants offer a "package" of ceremony samples, but they are usually limited to what amounts to an a la carte menu where the couple can choose from three different openings, three different blessings, etc. The couple makes their selections and the Officiant puts these parts together, much like a chef preparing an attractive meal.
This is not meant to be disparaging to these Officiants or to the couples who prefer this way of selecting their ceremony; I am simply pointing out how difficult it can be, even for a professional Officiant, to find alternative ceremonies. Many ordained Ministers are even required by their church to follow a particular ceremony. This book is written for those who are willing and able to create their own ceremony and their Officiant. (The ceremonies and suggestions you will find in this book are mostly civil, non-denominational Christian, spiritual, and similar types. Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, and many other religions have their own requirements which must be met, all of which are beyond the scope of this book.)
One quick word on choosing your Officiant: Each state has its own particular laws regarding marriage. Two of the best routes to learn what you need to know are through local professional Officiants and your local county clerk's office. Ordained Ministers can perform ceremonies pretty much anywhere, but some "instant-ordination" churches are not recognized in certain states. Some states allow a Notary Public or Justice of the Peace to legally perform a ceremony. Vow Renewals and Commitment Ceremonies do not, of course, require a legally-qualified Officiant, but we will address other options, such as choosing a friend or family member to perform any ceremony, later.
My hope in writing this book is to offer as much information as possible for couples and Officiants alike on the wedding ceremony and the unlimited possibilities available. Somewhere in the planning, between deciding upon the correct shade of blue (so that the dresses and table decorations match exactly) and whether to serve a buffet or sit-down dinner, choices will have to be made and words will have to be chosen, words that are meant to recognize you as a couple in the eyes of the world. My hope is that this book will help you to discover your perfect ceremony.
Rev. Tara DeLin Sherman
4 Ever Together Weddings
Oviedo, FL
