The Ups and downs of the most popular way to find a mate.
Okay like many of you out there I was a little curious about how this works and if it was, really worth the effort. So I decided to d o some of my own investigating.
The first thing I did was go to Google and enter a search.
I found several sites and Whoa! A lot of sites are there. So , me being the frugal person that I try to be, Now days you kind of have to, I entered a new search. Free dating sites.. And two or three popped up. I will not enter the names for fear of fines and such. So, I picked the first one which looked promising.
Let me be Honest I didn't expect to find much on these sites. I always thought they were total BS so, I was pleasantly surprised. There are really some honest people out there looking sincerely for someone to take out and to get to know better. But there are those ones who are there to. shall I say, just want get laid!!! And, I guess that's fine if that's what your looking for!
But, I honestly wanted to see if it could be worth the fuss. So I entered the site and I hit the register icon. And it took me to a page where you fill out all your info. Now let me just tell you , if you don't have a lot of time, let's say at least 2 to 3 hours then this might not work too well. They do ask for a lot of info and it got me very frustrated. I was about to can the whole idea all together. But my research was more important that that , so I continued on.
The next thing I may suggest to you is, before you go to the site write down things like. What your looking for, What you look like (Be honest, if you're a big person say it. You'll be surprised how that doesn't matter much now days).
What are some things you like to do. Example, if you love to read say it! And say what kind of person you are looking for and, what your not looking for. Be specific. It gives you a wider range of people and they will appreciate your honesty.
Also if you have children please don't lie and say you don't. There are a lot of single parents out there who are just like you. They want to find someone very honest and ones who understand what is like to have kids and be single!!!!
So once you do all that you may choose to enter a picture. Let me just say the odds of getting someone's attention greatly increases' with a picture. So make it a great one. I for one will not message anyone back unless they have a picture. It's just I want to see if that person is attractive. Because if your not attracted to them then what's the point right!
Also requirements are good to put in. For example, Non -smoker, drinks or not, Married or not. Things you are looking for.
A lot of times the sites are equipped with that so it'll show on your profile. Also they give you a chance to put a header on your profile like, “ Honesty sincere man looking for a Honesty sweet woman to share good times wit” or something to that nature. So, be creative in your header.
Or , you can choose just to have your username on the page instead. Most sites do this too. After that you can write a little about yourself, your experiences, and what you are really truly trying to accomplish in this manner of dating. The best advice I can give you is to be yourself and be very wary of things. Don't get involved with someone you've never met. Don't send them money and, most of all don't believe them until you meet them. Be wary of everyone.
If you do by chance meet them meet them in a restaurant or a coffee house with lots of people around.
If you don't want to meet them by yourself take a friend with you. And, tell that person your meeting, that you are bringing a friend for safety and tell them to do the same, if they would like to.
Be precautious.
There are too many women getting scammed on the internet by believing anything these men will say.
Don't be desperate and don't sound lonely and scared. That will make you a target for those predators out there!!
Good luck and I hope it works for you…
