Understanding how important the wedding really is.
There are so many people getting married these days. I look and wonder do they know that every finite detail is meant to be symbolic in some way. When you are getting married did you know that the wedding bands are symbolic of the never-ending circle that is not to be broken? O.k. Did you also know that those standing in the bridal party are there to bare witness to the union of the loving couple that is getting married? This means that they are also baring witness before God that they will be the ones making the couple uphold their vows in the event that they begin to slack off on their marital duties. This is why it should not be taken lightly, as to who will be in the wedding party. Most brides and grooms choose people because they are cool and not because they themselves, are living a life that is a good example. You see, how can they guide you if they themselves aren't living right? Did you also know that the wedding guests are also there to bare witness as to the love and union that is to be kept, not just on the wedding day but everyday. By being a guest, you are saying that you are going to hold the couple accountable to the vows that they speak before God and their priest. This is why it is hard to understand why some bride and grooms invite hundreds of people. Do they actually talk to all those people? Are all those people going to hold them accountable to one another in regards to their vows? The wedding day is a momentous occasion. It is the joining of two lives that have walked two entirely different paths to get to where they are. It is the promise of a life of unity and working together. It is one of the most important parties you will throw. You must take it seriously. Have you ever noticed, that those people who use their wedding day as a joke, don't usually last long? This is the first day of your marriage together. It is a strong indication of how your marriage will be. Most people don't get it. They just think it is a day to wear cool clothes, dance and eat good food. That is good to do. However, that is suppose to be the benefit of the care that was put into the relationship, engagement , and the wedding. When planning your wedding, surround yourself with people that truly live up to a standard in their own lives. Invite those who will sit in pride and responsibility to you and your spouse. If you begin to stray, invite those people, who you know will lead you back home where you belong. If you want to truly have a special day. If you really care about the love of your life. Take special care in surrounding yourselves with love and honor and respect. Don't just pick people to be in your bridal party because you know them. Look at the life they live. Look at the character of that person. If you don't see a life of values, don't have them standing at the alter with you, as if to promise God that they will help you do what is right. They can't possibly be a strong foundation for you if they can't get their own lives together. This is your wedding day. It is to be beautiful and special. But most of all it is to be real. Not fake and full of pretense. But real and full of honor and true commitment to the vows you will take on that special day.
